6 Priceless Things Our Loved Ones Need From Us

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 There are 6 priceless things our loved ones require/need from us and they are, in no particular order: love, care, attention, time, respect and trust.

Care-

Show your loved ones that you truly care by supporting them, encouraging them and believing in them. Show interest in them. Interest like, how was your day?  Have you eaten? Are you hungry? Why are you sad? Who offended you? I think you need a new hair cut, I think you need a new hair due. How was your exam? How was your interview? How was your shopping? How was work today? How can I be of help? Is there anything I can do to help? Please let me help, amongst others.  

If you notice these things trigger emotion. These things are priceless. It shows that you truly care about them. It shows that you are concerned enough to want to know about them/their well being. 

Time-

Create time for your loved ones. Give them to time learn. Give them time to change. Walk through the process with them. Understand that not everyone is like you. Understand that not everyone learns fast like you. Understand that we are all different. Give them time to catch up. There is no relationship (be it family relationship, friendship relationship, relationship as a couple amongst others) that do not have ups and downs. When you quarrel or when you do hurtful things to them, like saying hurtful things, give them time to heal. Understand that forgiving does not mean healing. You forgive then you heal to forget. Give them time to heal.
Create time for your loved ones. A popular saying goes thus ''if they truly love you, they will find time for you''. Find time to call, text, go out on dates (lunch, dinners amongst others). Spend time together as a couple, friend, family etc. This is where the next thing comes in Attention.


Attention-

Attend to the needs of your loved ones. What do they actually need? They need YOU. They need your presence. They need your time and you can only give them this by paying attention to them. You can be there but not present i.e. your mind being else where. Give them your undivided attention when you are with them. Give them your listening ears. Give them your understanding heart. Compliment them. Pay attention to the little details. Little details like, what they like, their best colour, what they dislike/complain about amongst other things. The truth is, it is the little things that makes the big difference. Those things that you think/feel no one cares about or notices are the things that people/they actually care about and notice, so do pay attention.

Trust-

Do you trust your loved ones? Do you trust them enough to entrust them with things close to your heart? It could be information, money, possessions etc. Do you trust them enough to reveal things you are afraid to tell/show others? When they are falsely/wrongly accused, do you trust them enough to believe that are falsely being accused?  This can be difficult I know, but your loved ones need you to trust them. You just have to trust them till they prove you wrong for trusting them. Remember, trust is among the priceless things our loved ones need from us.  

Respect- 

Our loved ones need our respect. A wise man one said ''you don't demand for respect, you earn it''. Do not wait for your loved ones to demand for your respect before you respect them. Earn the respect of your loved ones. Give them your respect. Understand that hurtful words or disrespect are forms of emotional and psychological abuses. Honour them, appreciate them, say kind words to them, above all, compromise. You cannot always have things the way you want, sometimes you just have to compromise in order for peace to reign. When there is peace, you are happy, they are happy. 

Respect their feelings, respect their character (who they are). Respect the fact that, they cannot be like you or be the way you want them to be. Respect their personality. Treat them with kindness. Treat them with love. Treat them with care. This is where the 6th thing comes in, Love. 

Love- 

They are called your loved ones for a reason right? When you love someone, you will respect them. You will be careful not to hurt their feelings and when you see that you've hurt them, you will immediately try to correct your wrong, right? Though you need to give them time to heal of the hurtful things you have said/done. You then also have to work on yourself to ensure that you do not keep hurting them. 

When you love someone, you create time to be with them. Your words might say you love them but your action needs to prove what your words say. The truth is, action speaks more than words. ''Silence might speak a thousand words, words might have a million and one things to say but action speaks every word there is to be said'' (Chidinma Inpirations, 2014). *winks*   

When you love someone, you care about them. You care enough to pray for them. You care enough to ask after and about their well being. You care enough to wish them well. You care enough to go out of your way and get them things no matter how inexpensive they may be. The truth is, it is the thought that counts not the gift and if they love you in return, they will appreciate it. You going out of your way to do so, shows that you love them and care about them. When you love someone, you will trust them and your give them your attention.     

If you noticed, the 6 priceless things our loved ones need from us are all interlinked. Our loved ones majorly need from us things money cannot buy and once we have shown and given them these 6 things, the things money can buy becomes a bonus.  

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Be Inspired. 

Yours Truly,

Chidinma

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