Monday, 16 April 2018

An Abuse Worse Than Physical Abuse

#Life #Inspiration


My head hurts from thinking about everything.
My eyes hurts from crying myself to sleep daily.
My legs became too weak to move because I became physically tired. 
Thinking couldn't help. 
Analysing couldn't either. 
Talking to someone couldn't because no matter how I spoke with someone, I still have to encounter the person all over again. 

When I am alone it still hurts.
It hurts so bad. I could feel it in my bones.
I became a shadow of myself. 
I became invisible even to myself.
I felt I wasn't good enough...no, I believed I wasn't good enough.
I looked for a way to end it all. 
Slowly my esteem started to depreciate. 
I saw everyone around better than me.
I saw everyone more superior to me. 
I had a shell I slowly crawled into. That shell became my shelter. It became my comfort zone.
Depression crawled into my comfort zone. 
All unimaginable thoughts came in uninvited.
I just wanted to end it all. 
I wanted to live this world and escape it all.

This is never talked about. Many turn a blind eye to it but it is worse than physical abuse. It is poisonous. It kills faster than anyone could ever imagine.

I was emotionally abused. I was reminded constantly how I wasn't good enough. I was compared to everyone and everything. He/she/they never saw never good thing in me. To be appreciated never existed in my world. Going out with the person became a thing I dreaded because others were admired other than me. Everyone was compared to me.
Outside and inside I was constantly told how terrible of a person I was.
My dreams were kicked to the side.
My words became a poison even to me.

Words became a hammer to my soul. 
Words became a bulldozer to my world.
My world was falling apart. 
My body was getting weaker by the day.
My heart was falling me.

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But who are mine?

I am that man/woman/boy/girl who is constantly abused with words. Who is never appreciated. Who is always demoralized with words.

Emotional abuse is hardly talked about...worse than physical abuse. Infact no abuse is better. Because they all kill. They all destroy.

An abuser is a toxic person even if he or she didn't lay his or her hands on you. Sometimes an abuser might be someone who you cant correct or fight back.

As sad as it is difficult to hear, sometimes children are victims of emotional abuse. Parents and teachers emotionally abuse their children even without them knowing. 

Now how does one escape this type of abuse?

For an adult it is easy to avoid the person or to walk away from that toxic relationship if after someone the abuser respects alot talks to him or her and still no changes. But what about the little children? How do they escape it? How do they boost their self esteem and become strong again? How do they get back up?

This is something to think about. 

Words can this can help build the abused both children and adult back up:
Believe in yourself always. 
Always have it at the back of your mind that you are worth dying for. 
You are good enough. 
Many will give it all just to have you in their lives.
You are loved.
You are appreciated.
Always know that your goals are valid. 
Your dreams are worth.
You are worth it. 
You are a rare gem.
You are a priceless jewel.
You are one of a kind.

Everyone loves to feel loved and appreciated. Our words kill. Our words destroy. No wonder the bible says, death and life lies in the tongue.

Let your words lift others up. Don't be an emotional abuser rather be an inspirer, a motivator, an encourager.

Be Inspired


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Yours Truly,
Chidinma

Photo Credit:
Blackburn center.org



8 comments :

  1. Very nice article. I absolutely love this site.
    Keep writing!

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    1. Thank you for your suggestion. Working towards it.

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  3. In as much as I condemn emotional abuse, but sometimes certain people attitudes are the reason why some responds in a hurtful way. Anyways, sorry goes a long way in healing. Let us all be mindful of what we say. Thank you

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    1. Like I posted on social media, extra caution must be exercised when we talk when provoked. We might be forgiven but those words linger on in our minds forever

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  4. Just like Ceecee rants in bbn, this is one reason why domestic violence will continue exist. Cos just few men will condone hurtful words. Hope I'm not talking off point

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    1. Oga abi na madam, what is the relationship with Ccee and this post lol, well na girl na Alomo bitters, the man she will end up hmmmmm let me comma and be going

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