Friday, 3 February 2017

Dear Chidinma, My Mother-in-law Is Making My Life A Living Hell Because I Am Opting For C Section

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Hello Chidinma, my name is Grace. I am going to be a first time mum by the first week in March. But I am very sad because I want to go in for C section and my mother-in-law doesn't like the idea. She even decided to come and live with us in the guise that she wants to help out prior to my delivery. But I know that the reason why she is here is to know how I give birth to her grandchild. These past weeks has been hell, from one quarrel to another. 

She said that none of her children (both daughters and daughters-in-law) gave birth through C section that I want to now spoil her family tradition and it isn't biblical. 

Please can you help with any advice you could give. I also need the opinion of others or of those who has gone through this part before. 

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Hello Grace,

Thank you for your email and congratulations on the soon arrival of your bundle of joy. I have so many questions but I will ask just 1:

1) Please what is your husband's stand on it? 

Personally, I do not see anything wrong with giving birth through cs. All that matters is that mummy and baby are doing well.

A woman lost her triplets in the hospital where I gave birth because she refused to go for cs as advised by the doctors. She said she must go for vaginal delivery. She said it wasn't scriptural etc. She called her Pastors to pray for her when the doctors and nurses where pleading with her to do cs. 

The doctors said, Madam, one baby just died please don't lose the remaining 2. Please go for cs and save the lives of your babies she said no. Her hubby pleaded, she still said no. Her husband was in tears...

I  don't know what your husband's stands are but if he is in support, why will he allow his mum to treat you this way in your condition? Only you know the reason why you want to go for cs. 

I read on a blog where a woman shared that she cried when the doctors told her to opt for cs for the safety of her baby. She said she cried to her hubby that this is not how the women of Hebrew gave birth. 

I LOVE her husband's response. He said what the Bible meant by giving birth like the Hebrew women is when the mother and baby come out alive and well.

I wish you well dear Grace. At the end of the day, you know what's best for your baby. I pray all goes well with you. 

Please if you have any advice to give to her, please do not hesitate to share.

Yours Truly,
Chidinma

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1 comment :

Anthonia Eghaghe said...

If it's your choice, go for it dear.there is absolutely nothing wrong with cs...your life,your baby,your choice...