Tuesday, 27 January 2015

Is It Okay For Couples To Have Opposite Sex Friends? Let's Talk

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Hello Beautiful People!

Today is Tuesday! And you know what that means? It is In House Round Table Talk Today!!!

Today's topic is somewhat sensitive and also very controversial. According to many, it is more than okay to be friends with someone from the opposite sex even when you are in a relationship or married. However, many frowns at this.

So dear people, what is in your view on this?

This episode is to inspire us to learn and educate ourselves on matters like this and to somewhat bridge a gap between insecurities in relationships.
My View 
To be honest, I used to be among the people who will say a big ''NO'' to being friends with someone from the opposite sex when you are in a relationship/married.
Cos you just never know. Feelings grow and one thing leads to another, they fall in love and become a couple.
But at the same time, you cannot leave your friends of many years cos you are dating or are now married to someone. Can you?


Honestly, this is really a controversial and sensitive question/topic.
Cos when you get married  (I won't say when you start dating cos we all know that not all relationships lead to marriage) you may need to cut yourself some slack on how close you are with your male friends if you are a lady and with your female friends if you are man. This really is to avoid unnecessary insecurities in the relationship cos the mind can really be tricky and also not give room to entertain cheating on your spouse.

But at the same time, trust is key. Trust is very important. You need to trust your spouse and you also need to trust God.

I don't know... I really need you to share your views with us so that we can learn from one another and also so that we can educate ourselves. And don't worry, we are not here to condemn or judge anyone. Everyone's views are humbly respected and appreciated.

Be Inspired

P.S- You might also be interested in previous episodes of In House Round Table Talk:
Is It That Terrible To Have Only Female Children? Let's Talk
What Is The Impact/Effect Of Flaunting One's Relationship On Social Media? Let's Talk
Should Men Take Part In The Things That Has To Do With The Kitchen? Let's Talk
Should A Lady Know How To Cook Before She Is Married? Let's Talk
Does Saying ''I Love You'' Genuinely Mean True Love?
Should A Girl Keep Her Virginity Before Marriage Or Not? Let's Talk

Please kindly invite your friends to join us on today's talk.

Yours Truly,
Chidinma

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9 comments :

Dauda Aliu said...

There's nothing bad in keeping opposite friends and at the same time, there's something bad in it. While my wife keep friends with opposite sex, there must be limits to..... Hey, if it becomes out of the box, that friendliness gotta stop.

Chidinma Inspirations said...

Dear Dauda,
Thank you for your view on this topic. It is greatly respected and appreciated.

anthonia eghaghe said...

Its ok to have friends of the opposite sex,but there should be boundaries.just like Dauda rightly said.its simple.

Chidinma Inspirations said...

Dear Anthonia,
Thank you for your view on this topic. It is greatly respected and appreciated.

Paul Oyegbenga said...

Lolz, I keep female friends and most times it has been an issue in my past relationships, honestly they are innocent relationship but it takes a very matured lady to understand which isn't very easy to do.

I asked myself one day "if I see my woman with another man and she tells me they are friends, how would I take it"? Definitely not very good I guess so I decided there are limits you have to go when keeping opposite sex as friends most especially when you are married or in a serious relationship.


Very tricky but God's wisdom is needed in this subject matter.

Chidinma Inspirations said...

Dear Paul,
Thank you for your view on this topic. It is greatly respected & appreciated.

Paul Oyegbenga said...

Hmmm, I think I like the addressing by the first name, makes me feel kind of important... Hehehe.

And thanks for thanking me... lolz

Femi B said...

I think when the purpose of any relationship or even conversation is defined, it just beems light on the dark things not easily perceived. After defining it sincerely, can you tell it to your spouse what it is? If you can't, then there's a problem. Keeping a long time friend in the name of long time friendship, or having a friendship were you basically just care for one another sounds good, it would build a wall between spouses, the feeling of insecurity and insufficiency. Comparison would crip in and trust me, the friend would appear to be nicer no matter what your spouse does because he would be scarce, scarcity breeds value. I don't keep female friends. I do business with opposite sex, I minister to the and that it. If I get into friendship mode with a lady, it's easy to know my intentions... Envisaging marriage. Hope this helps someone.

Chidinma Inspirations said...

Dear Femi,
Thank you for your view on this topic. It is greatly respected and appreciated.