Tuesday, 16 December 2014

Should A Girl Keep Her Virginity Before Marriage Or Not? Let's Talk.

#Inspiration


Virginity is a very sensitive topic. Many hate whenever this topic is been discussed. Many feel that in this time and age it is so overrated. Many are of the opinion that a lady feels less of a woman if she is still a virgin and needs to be dis-flowered to experience life before marriage.

Many are also of the opinion that a relationship without sex till lacks love and is so boring. So guys let's talk.

This post will be a very interactive post and I need your help to make it one. Let's hear your (both boys and girls, guys and ladies, men and women) views on this topic. Don't worry, I will share my views with you too okay?

The aim of this post is to inspire ourselves especially our teenage sisters or even brothers, teenage friends and teenagers as a whole who are been badly influenced in their various schools. It is also to inspire virgins all around the world who are been intimidated that they are old school or that no boy will date or marry them or that are been threatened by their boyfriends that he will leave them for someone else if they don't give in or that no boy will spend on them... and the list goes on.


My View On This Topic-
To me, a girl should wait till she is married before she looses her virginity. This is because, her virginity is one thing...one priceless thing that she will never ever get back.

Also sex is a spiritual covenant. Who you give your body to has taken something significant from you and vice versa with or without you knowing.

Many atimes sex before marriage, leads to unwanted pregnancies and also many regrets. Having a child for him is no guarantee that will be a father to your child or take you to the altar. Most wounded hearts that takes forever to heal is because sex was involved in that relationship. Sex isn't love and this is always mistaken for love.

In terms of if the guy will spend on you or not? My view is, work so hard to have your own thing. Work so hard so that you won't have to depend on anyone and when you get married be submissive to your husband.

My views might be so different from yours and I am not here to judge anyone whatsoever. Your views will be totally respected. So my dear readers, I leave the comment section to you. Let's inspire ourselves and also our younger ones or teenagers all around the world or virgins out there. What is your view on this topic? Should a girl wait before marriage or not?

Please invite your friends to share their views too.

Be Inspired.

Yours Truly,
Chidinma

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35 comments :

Emmanuel Osawemwenze said...

Yes! A girl should keep herself till after marriage is done...that way she will be happy, the society will be happy, and God will be happy too...same goes for guys! #team.virgin

adeboye adeoye said...

YES A GIRL SHOULD WAIT UNTIL MARRIAGE BEFORE HAVING SEX...but nowadays *virgins are hard to find,girls don't want to wait until when they married due to the impatient guys and girls looking for money by all means......like seriously,if a guy truly loves you as he claim to be,he will surely be willing to wait and control is below the belt faculties and as for me o i will respect my girl's decision and determination to WAIT
aunty chi,more powers to your elbow...keep the inspirations coming

Anonymous said...

True though. different lives, different journeys.
Nice write up

Chidinma Inspirations said...

Dear Emmanuel, Adeboye and Anonymous, I respect and appreciate your views.

The Fashion Engineer said...

I like when you said work so hard you won't have to depend on anyone
it's amazing how our society hails those that have one night stands but those who choose to wait are 'uncool'
So people don't even know not waiting to marriage is wrong
God bless you for this post..I bet you've educated someone :)

Chidinma Inspirations said...

The Fashion Engineer Amen. I hope I have.
I also respect and appreciate your views.

anthonia eghaghe said...

I think is good for a lady to keep her self till she's married,but d question is,how many guys are willing to wait till den?...

Chidinma Inspirations said...

I respect and appreciate your comment dear Anthonia. But the question is, are you giving yourself up because a guy wants you to or because you want to?

Anonymous said...

Hmm..aunty chy, please dont you do giveaways like LIB? I want to win xmas shoe o

Anonymous said...

This virginity topic is really trending everywhere... its ok. please post my comment o

Chidinma Inspirations said...

Lol. I will still get to Linda's level by the grace of God. But for now, I am giving away N3000 recharge card each to two lucky readers who are consistent with their comments till Christmas Eve.

Anonymous said...

For real? Haa, na to start to dey comment be that oo..I have to hustle hard to be part of the lucky winners

emmahenry1010 said...

Great write-up, the pains of premarital sex far outweigh its gains if there is ever a gain to say the least,chastity before marriage is golden,uncommon and noble, but its very difficult to achieve in this age,however the old way is still the best path to glory, premarital sex is the major cause of promiscuity among the married today.that this is coming from a lady is very commendable,let this wave of chastity before marriage rob on all those around you. #BEgoodCHIDI

anthonia eghaghe said...

U too like awoof o,lol.abeg o aunty chi make u do as ur hand reach.

Paul Oyegbenga said...

Hmmm, such a sensitive issue. Yes there are still virgins out there but very few, many young ladies wants to experiment, some wants to know if there so called future partner can really perform his duty well on bed.And all sorts of excuses for wanting to try the sex thing out.

I must say it's good for a lady to keep herself till wedding night but how many guys are willing to wait with her? I am no fan of waiting till wedding night after my long time ex betrayed my love and the trust I have in her, she is the only girl I ever loved up till date tho we are no longer together.

She told me she was a virgin and no sex till marriage, I accepted since I love her and trust her, but I use to tell her our marriage will break if on our wedding night I found out she was not truthful about the virgin thing.... fast forward to after 4, years still with her and trusting I have a virgin girlfriend....

One night we are just together alone like we use to hang out and one thing lead to the other, we had sex and lo and behold she wasn't what I expected, you know the rest of the story.... How do I continue trusting or loving such girl? Who knows who the guy she gave it to? She won't even tell me how or what lead to her losing it.... And you advice me to wait till wedding night with another lady?

Issokay I will wait for your response on this, this story is no joke o, na real life story and it happened to me

Chidinma Inspirations said...

Thank you emmahenry1010. I respect and appreciate your views.

Chidinma Inspirations said...

Dear Paul I am sorry that your heart got broken. I also respect and appreciate your views. It's your decision dear, who am I to judge you?

olisa said...

Sex is a learning experience for everyone, and If you both approach it as a virgin, It's even more special because you're learning together. SEX is also not the most important thing in marriage, though it's a wonderful Perk!
The problem is, If there is an experience gap between the both parties. Then there's every tendency for cheating.....
I strongly believe in #virgin till marriage. But it's has to imply to both genders. Because there's no glory when d husband is a virgin and the wife isn't or other Way round.
Nice write up CHY. Need more of interactive session for people view/opinion.
Regards....

Chidinma Inspirations said...

Thank you Olisa. I respect and appreciate your views. Will publish more interactive posts by the grace of God.

Paul Oyegbenga said...

Am still a fan of no sex before marriage tho, but both parties must keep to their end of the bargain.....

banjelo blog said...

hmm,truly inspirational post! keep it up chidinma

Chidinma Inspirations said...

Thank you dear Banjelo. I do appreciate it.

Anonymous said...

If she like she shouldnt keep it na....then no man would respect her, no matter how much he calms to love her

Anonymous said...

Her body is the temple of the holyghost and she should only be submissive to her husband....bible talk am!

Chidinma Inspirations said...

Dear Anonymous, thank you for your views on this topic. It is greatly respected and appreciated.

Chidinma Inspirations said...

Lol. Dear Anonymous, thank you for your view on this topic. It is greatly respected and appreciated.

chikereuba judith said...

but is not easy to marry in virgin

Chukwu Uju said...

Dear Chidinma, good write up. It is beautiful and worthy of respect if a girl gets married a virgin. But then some girls have been victims of one assault or the other and it makes them stray. Most times those hurt bring about the worse of a ladies life. But if keeping yourself is worth it, the future with the husband has enough room for sex. But to those who have lost it one way or the other, the society does not condemn you but the ability of choosing to live right with God afterwards is key.

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Anonymous said...

Yes I do strongly believe that women and men should keep their virginity until the marriage but its defiantly not something to worry about too much especially now in the western world were guys and girls don't care about their virginity so much and there are more important factors such as loyalty and personality. I've heard some people say that pre marital sex isnt worth it and even cases where people felt haunted by the experience even years after and how great people say the wait is. There is scientific evidence that after a women has has lost her virginity to a man will be (on average) 20% likely to divorce but if she loses her virginity to a man it goes up to 50% likely to divorce and it keeps going up as she sleeps with more men. So its probably best to stay a virgin before marriage.

Anonymous said...

I'm so glad the world is finally coming to their senses and realising that the creator of sex (God) is right when he says it only meant for marriage. Whether you like it or not he is right...:D

Dauda Aliu said...

Nice comment from everyone. So, the issue of the certificate of virginity spurred this up again.

jasmina said...

Apart from considering virginity as important,also consider your dignity for christ's sake it's important to have standards in life especially as a girl you should know what is good for or bad that is why preserving your virginity until marriage is very precious and i bet you,there will be a time you will personally congratulate yourself for for doing that.But at the end of the day everyone has her own way of looking at things.

Iyabo Oyawale said...

The Bible says marriage is honourable and the bed undefiled (Hebrews 13 vs 4), so, yes, a couple should wait until the marriage night. But, in today's society, they should be prepared to face ridicule as well as pressure. They should just determine to go the whole hog because God blesses obedient children.


But, if you're reading this and you already lost your virginity, God still loves you. You just need to ask for forgiveness (Rev 3 vs 20) and determine to keep yourself pure until marriage. Don't hate yourself because of that. God doesn't hate you. You just have to make a turn-around.

Anonymous said...

It's gud for girls to keep their virginity,but no guy is willing to wait in this case,virgin girls get a broken heart,wen the guy they truly love can't wait

Anonymous said...

Yes Virginity is what shouldn't be stressed about. It should be a normal way of living for thoes who call them selves Christians. But the Devil has come to make goods things bad and bad ways to seem good, so we need as children of God to known that keeping ourselves as a boy or a girl is what needs to be done. You do not choose the commandments to keep? Persevere and your life on earth will continue to be a testimony. The grace is always there.